Looking at the topic again, It makes me grin sheepishly I know it
sounds cheezy, but don’t get worried, this is not an announcement that I am now
interested in same sex love relationships! It’s a challenge to us ‘girls’ to be
there for each other…
Women are
their own worst enemies….I have heard that saying over and over again and a few
people have stories to back the saying; from ‘horrible’ female bosses to the
older single woman ‘beefing’ the younger married and pregnant colleagues. I
have heard quite a number of stories. How about ‘mentors’ who don’t want their
protégées to make greater progress than themselves? Or that female Sponsorship
manager who won’t give opportunities to women initiated projects? I am an
advocate of my fellow women prospering and being empowered so these stories
sadden me and I hope and pray that I would continue to help my sisters prosper.
Yesterday I
decided to go to one of the events in the Social Media week currently taking
place and of course the session I went for was on women doing business the
social way. I went prepared to learn and find practical answers that could
improve my business. It was ‘one hour’ worth my while, however I asked a
question and did not get an adequate answer and was feeling somewhat
dissatisfied.
As the
program ended and I stood up to leave, I was approached by three pleasant
ladies, in the first place, I felt rather special because of the attention, but
as I listened to what they had to say, I felt really blessed! They had come to
answer my question and offer me practical tips that I could apply to improve my
business. After they were done, I was overwhelmed with gratitude, because it
was one of the few times women had walked up to me to offer help. It is usually
a guy thing from my experience.
This is to
say a big thank you to Ized Uanikhehi of Evolvesynergy.com and Ifeoma
Chuks-Adizue of deluxechildbirth.com and Sheervirtuosity.com. Your generosity
in sharing has made me a richer person and broadened my social media marketing
knowledge. And also to Amaka Titilayo Okoli of Spreadmediang.com for the
pre-event blogging tips. I am definitely looking forward to our lunch date and
the opportunity to take this blog to a new level soon.
That been
said, the bible says it is more blessed to give than to receive, every woman
you meet is not a ‘bitch’ or a ‘gossip’ or ‘jealous’. There are definitely
people who are positive and can add value and I want to challenge you to be an
example. How you might ask?
1. Be a positive person: Yup! Speak positive, think positive and let
the positive energy spread. They say you attract who you are, so evaluate
yourself, who are you attracting? Some people can rebuff you when you reach out
to them positively, but it should not discourage you. I always make an excuse for
people who react negatively to my positivity so that I don’t think negative
thoughts towards them.
2. Seek to give not just to receive: I had a
colleague who always asked her self ‘WIIFM’ anytime she met someone or had an
opportunity brought before her. The ‘what’s in it for me’ attitude is the
default setting of most of us and it is undeniably a way our minds protect us
from getting hurt or being manipulated. However reset yourself to be a giver.
When you meet someone, train yourself to ask; how can I add value to this
person or be a blessing to them. Giving makes our life richer and brings back
multiplied blessings to us. How can you open doors or make a way for another
person today?
3. Speak positive and encouraging words: A lot of people
have personal insecurities either about their physical features or some
personality weaknesses. Imagine what life would be like on a day to day basis
when we speak positive and encouraging words to people? Our days would definitely
be happier. Find something to compliment people about and this would be easy if
you are a positive person.
4. Everybody is a well of knowledge, be open to drink from them: This is
something I tell myself every time. Sometimes I feel like I am really smart
especially in subjects that I have acquired adept knowledge about. However I
have come to realize that a lot of successful people are not necessarily the
smartest, they are the people most able to humble themselves to listen to
people and get relevant information to apply to their lives. People like people
who listen to them which is a point Dale Carnegie made in the book ‘How to make
friends and influence people’. When you
meet people especially your fellow sisters, be open to listen and learn from
them.
The ladies I met today encouraged me to share what I do to pay the
bills (which I really love doing by the way) with you and so here goes; I am a
fashion entrepreneur; you can visit my fashion brand site www.recreationsng.com to see and buy the most amazing shirts and more products are
coming soon. I am also a business development consultant based on my corporate
work experience and MBA knowledge and I am open to help sme’s grow and expand
their businesses. Email me at bamitale@en-reachlimited.com or tale@recreationsng.com
Let’s continue to be givers in 2014, share this with someone who you know would really be blessed by it.
Peace and Love
Tale
Go girl!! Happy to have been of help....It really is more blessed to give than to receive. You know what, that experience actually has made me push myself to give more and not under-estimate or take any knowledge for granted. Cheers...to becoming 5 star women. Lets keep in touch.
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